I've always been of the opinion that the one with the cooler name should win out.
But then I'm also resistant to the idea of changing names at all because of the identity issues associated with it. I let my daughter have her father's name because his is more distinctive and he has more of a family history (my surname is one my mother invented after her divorce because she disliked her maiden name).
I use their name for family/school reasons to make things easier but on the whole I'm okay with us not sharing one. It's also not a bad thing to keep mine as a work name and have an 'undercover' name for household stuff...
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Date: 2009-03-26 09:53 pm (UTC)But then I'm also resistant to the idea of changing names at all because of the identity issues associated with it. I let my daughter have her father's name because his is more distinctive and he has more of a family history (my surname is one my mother invented after her divorce because she disliked her maiden name).
I use their name for family/school reasons to make things easier but on the whole I'm okay with us not sharing one. It's also not a bad thing to keep mine as a work name and have an 'undercover' name for household stuff...