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So this woman is out to save marriage from divorce in Oklahoma. This may be an unpopular thing to say, but I applaud her for at least having the courage of her convictions and going full-on with the crazy and not being a hypocrite. See, she really does think gays are a threat to marriage. And she sat a good long time and thought, "Gee, you know what else is a threat to marriage?"

Et voila, she has something she wants done about divorce. Not that she intends to be any less batshit, rights-denying, human-hating about this than she is about gay marriage. This woman wants you married, goddamnit, and you will stay that way, so help her GOD...

Her rules would basically make it impossible for all but childless couples and those who get married at Vegas chapels on drunken binges (are you listening, Britney Spears?) to get divorced. You couldn't divorce for "incompatibility" if you'd been married for ten years or more (because every thing that might happen to you to change your personality has only a ten-year window in which to happen which opens right after you get married and nothing good/bad/major will ever happen to you or your spouse after that window is closed). You also can't divorce for "incompatibility" if you have minor children, which means that unless you were living in sin with the partner with whom you had children until those children were 6-7-8 years of age, HA HA NO DIVORCE FOR YOU. I suppose that's one way to keep an eye on those people of ill repute who would dare to birth bastards in this day and age. (That's probably her next suggestion: finding a way to declare certain kinds of children legally illegitimate in a country with no royalty.)

You also can't object to a divorce on "incompatibility" grounds if the other person objects. Would love to be in that Divorce Court. ("Your Honor, we're clearly incompatible! He wants a divorce and I don't! Er, wait...") It's the kind of logical conundrum that would kill off our Robot Overlords.

The non-funny side to this is that a person who is not outright abusive or unfaithful could trap you in a marriage basically forever by refusing to divorce you. Two things about that: 1) No one should ever have that power over you again, which is why divorce exists at all. 2) If this whole thing were to pass, that person could hold you until such time as you hit the big Tin/Aluminium Anniversary and became ineligible. (Ooh, did this Rep. know that the traditional presents for that anniversary are so...tarnishable?) ::shudders at the thought::

No fault divorce! The three best words in the English language!

Date: 2010-01-05 09:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] trinityvixen.livejournal.com
It really does depend, doesn't it? I mean, all that has to happen is, well, anything. A new job. Losing your job. A death in the family. A birth in the family. Money loss. Money gain. Changing your name after getting married. Not changing your name.

It looks bad when couples split soon after getting married, but unless I do know that there is something truly airheaded or selfish about the people involved, I don't generally judge the people getting divorced one way or another. I can be irate about spending money on their wedding, though. That's fair. But my or your irritation is just part of the shit they have to accept if they can't make it work. Divorce is not about getting out of marriage scott free, you know?

Date: 2010-01-05 10:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] saikogrrl.livejournal.com
Yeah, and though not having had a long term relationship, I can't really claim to be an expert, it does seem weird to me that they couldn't try for say, a year. Why it was so bad they had to dissolve it after six months. But I'll never know any of the particulars, so I guess I shouldn't speculate.

Date: 2010-01-05 10:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] trinityvixen.livejournal.com
I didn't mean to chide you or anything. Must learn to watch that. I certainly make snap judgments like everybody else. However, I know I'm a fussy person to get along with and so I just try to avoid criticizing aloud where I cannot really speak to truth. Because I wouldn't want it done about me either.

Date: 2010-01-05 10:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] chuckro.livejournal.com
One of my other LJ friends got divorced after only a year. Basically, there are things that you think are okay, that you think you can deal with, that it turns out you can't. And sometimes it takes the old college try before you realize that.

Date: 2010-01-05 10:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] saikogrrl.livejournal.com
Yeah, I understand - and I think giving it a go for a year makes sense, it's when it's such a shorter time like six months that it seems odd to me.

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