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[trinityvixen]

It's really, really sad when you find yourself checking your DVD clock every ten minutes or so to figure out how long it's been since you last saw zombies. Flight of the Living Dead did eventually deliver zombies, but, sheesh, I swear that Night of the Living Dead had more zombies and faster and it was made with less than half the budget (even without adjusting for inflation) and had fewer people in it to begin with. Outtakes were great, though.

And, FINALLY, I got to see Day Watch. Can I just say (as I've said before) that I love Anton? He's absolutely the biggest fuck-up of all time, and yet? Sweetly endearing in his credulous ineptitude. I'm gonna have to watch Night Watch and then Day Watch again to be sure I appreciate all the continuities (we did pretty well among the crowd that happened to be watching of reconstructing the plot by consensus from the last film). I'd love to see more of this, but I'm afraid. ecmyers said they're filming the next one in English. Why? I mean maybe I just don't know that the entire cast is actually bilingual and proud of it, but it seems to me that you shouldn't mess with the language through which they most comfortably express themselves. Hell, bad accents can take power out of a performance; adopting another language could do god-knows-what.

Plus, Anton sounds even more pathetic with his schlubby muttering in Russian than he would do in English, and his sclubbiness is why we love him!

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On a completely unrelated note: Rejected public proposals. Like the announcers, I've always wondered what would happen if someone actually said "no" when the grand "romantic" gesture was made. Rumor has it that this particular one was staged. If so, this one is probably fake, too. Regardless, you'll note that the crowd turns on the woman doing the rejecting pretty quick and that's the real mob reaction to her defying the narrative. Obviously, if he proposes in public, you're obligated to accept. How embarrassing for you to get that wrong.

Except? Ugh. I can't think that anyone who does this and really gets rejected would be anything but an idiot. Because there are two major reasons I could see this going wrong for that person. Either the woman never wants to marry him and he didn't know it but plowed along thinking the public proposal would force her into it; or she very likely would marry him but somehow their comfortable intimacy has not led him to realize that this is exactly the wrong way to do it. Either way, dumb move on the dude's part. I can't think of anything less romantic than thousands of strangers watching me for my every reaction and making judgments on whether it's grateful/happy/etc enough to match his grand gesture (by grand, I mean in size only, not in terms of tactfulness or true thoughtfulness). I break out into hives thinking of a traditional wedding where I would then be required to accept that I fit into some minister/justice-of-the-peace's statements about how joyous and blessed I feel to be with so-and-so. And there I'd only be doing so in front of people I know and who have, presumably, entered into friendships/are part of family such that I am allowed to do the same to them at some point. Being mushy in front of people period: DO NOT WANT.

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[chuckro.livejournal.com]

You realize that, just last summer, Jethrien and I attended a wedding/vacation in Hawaii where the minister, a longtime friend of the couple, invoked the Invisible Pink Unicorn (hallowed be her holy hooves); then we ate sushi and had a water balloon fight.

I'm all about having issues with the bridal-industrial complex, but the last few weddings I've been to (including my own) have shown that you can ignore them all you want, and no one will care.

I think it'd be awesome if your wedding featured free zombie makeup for anyone willing to shamble convincingly, and a wedding cake shaped like braaaaaains.

[trinityvixen.livejournal.com]

See, I don't have a problem with the wedding-with-all-the-trimmings stuff when other people do it. In fact, it's liable to make me quite mushy and disgusting. It's the idea of OTHER PEOPLE WATCHING ME BE SO that weirds me out. Do Not Want!

And, yes, I include your wedding among the "aww, this is the cutest thing ever I couldn't do it for the life of me" events. Honestly, I thought yours was the most sincere, sweetest thing ever (not to mention gorgeous), but I still flinch at the thuoght of switching places.

Re: zombie wedding? My idea is to save money on nice clothes and just go second-hand for EVERYTHING, because it's going to be torn up and bloodied. There will be aisle-shambling from the whole party, bride included. And yes, all the money saved goes to providing makeup for guests. You better believe there will be brain cake.

[chuckro.livejournal.com]

You love geeky tv, video games, sci-fi and horror movies. You don't want children but seem a big fan of sex. You want to have a zombie wedding, should you opt to get married at all. You understand Science! You bake. You're an attractive, shapely woman.

Explain to me again why there aren't constantly hoards of fanboys outside your building vying for your affection? Have they just not gotten the scent of you?

[moonlightalice.livejournal.com]

I think her response to that is "DO NOT WANT!"

[chuckro.livejournal.com]

I can understand that, I'm just wondering how she can leave the building without having to smack a bunch of fanboys with a cricket bat.

[kent-allard-jr.livejournal.com]

In fairness to fanboys, most of them (us?) don't harass women who clearly aren't interested. And TV's "type" (musclebound elderly serial killers) is rare among fanboys or, in fact, any group of men on Earth.

[trinityvixen.livejournal.com]

It's also entirely possible that I radiate some aura of "Back off, possibly rabid." I get that in non-romantic situations, too. One example that always stuck out in my mind was this compulsive liar I used to be friends with who would always bother my current roommate (who knew first-hand beter than I that she was full of shit) and never me long after we stopped hanging out together. I think somehow, despite my having less concrete evidence that she was a lying sack of shit, she didn't bug me to hang out with her half so much as someone who did. Something about me reeks of "Don't bother." Alas, has it been chasing away the boys? Dunno.

[kent-allard-jr.livejournal.com]

Oh, you never come across as "rabid." The only times you come close is in LJ, and the effect isn't off-putting, it's in fact extremely charming. (Personally, I wanted to hang out with you a lot more after I read your LJ.) Sometimes you seem wary, but never hostile -- at least that's been my experience.

I think some of it is just reputation, too -- "everyone knows" you're not interested in (non-fictional) guys, so no one presses the issue.

Also, I will say that when your roomie is in her bubbly, bouncy moods she can be very hard to ignore and can overshadow you and everyone else, but that's a different issue.

[trinityvixen.livejournal.com]

I aware of what the roomie's talents can bring about in a room full of folk. I don't mind. I honestly don't like being the center of attention (though I end up there by being noisy a lot of the time).

It's not that I'm not interested in nonfictional men period, more that I've not developed a romantic interest in anyone in my life. I have, previously, I don't right now. That's life.

If I seem wary, I suppose it's that I feel better in a crowd than I do one-on-one. I dunno, the energy of a crowd is always better for making me be more talkative and generally personable. Again, I feel this is a side-effect of disliking centers of attention; when you're two, there's nowhere else for the attention to go.

[kent-allard-jr.livejournal.com]

I honestly don't like being the center of attention.

Huh, I did not know that! Good to know, I suspect.

Anyway, I doubt that anyone holds your lack of romantic interest against you. It's all cool, and you're not under any obligation to Lie Back and Think of England.

[trinityvixen.livejournal.com]

Aww, that's very sweet. I think it's mostly this problem I have of just not really wanting a relationship. I guard my (admittedly, mostly wasted) free time pretty jealously, and that's just not worked out in the past. Gotta find some time to have time for a boyfriend that doesn't feel like I have to make time.

[chuckro.livejournal.com]

I aim to flatter.

I've found, personally, that no matter how overloaded I am, relationships managed to squeeze themselves in and make it to the top of the priority queue. But I get the impression I'm unusual in that regard.

Obviously, you'll know the right guy because he'll just slot into your schedule effortlessly, in-between serial murder and rehearsing eyebrow-only seduction.

[trinityvixen.livejournal.com]

You've got it in one. I'm looking for someone who isn't work to be with, ideally what any relationship should have. I haven't gotten there yet because I mostly don't feel the lack in my life for such a person. I'd like one, but am I missing the one that doesn't yet exist? Not really.

[moonlightalice.livejournal.com]

Being with someone you love isn't work--staying with them is, though. And you do give off an aura of DO NOT WANT, for better or worse.

I don't feel like I "lacked" anything before I was in a relationship, and I kind of resent that attitude. It doesn't "complete" me or anything, it's just another aspect of life that can bring a lot of joy (and pain). And yes, there's always time for it, especially if you're like me and fall for your best friends and thus spend time with them anyway. :D

[trinityvixen.livejournal.com]

I don't feel like I lack for much if anything, either. Especially not since I've got good friends who understand me at least about as well as I approximate an S.O. ever doing. Crazy, but it works. My older sister told me about how young folk in the city tend to form urban families--extensions that keep them from being lonely without the requirement of being in a relationship, and I'm loving that.

(And yes, I did suspect about that aura, as I said above. I dunno what I'm doing, but the results haven't bothered me yet. I'll have to undo the proton shields or whatever in pursuit of boy when the time comes, but I suspect I won't have to do much as I'm typically as subtle as a stampede.)